Everything we say, do or think has consequences.
That's the bit following whatever it is that we have said, done or thought.
There will always be something that follows. And there will always be people who struggle with the truth of that inevitability.
Accepting the concept of consequence is merely the tip of an emotional iceberg.
What follows is accepting the ownership of and responsibility for that which follows whatever it is we have said, done or thought. It's ours and ours alone.
When the consequence is a good one we are eager to embrace it.
When it's a bad one we look for excuses ... someone or something else to blame.
It's not always possible to accurately predict the outcome of a situation or event. More often than not, though, it's possible to foresee the potential impact of our own contribution to that situation or event.
We know when we are about to say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing or when we are thinking the wrong thing.
That's where choice comes in. When faced with alternatives we have the opportunity to
select the preference that suits us best. The decision is ours and ours alone.
The responsibility for the outcome is also ours and ours alone.
It's possible to change the way we will feel and live tomorrow by altering the way we think and act today.
- Gary Bentley is a Rural Aid counsellor